Thursday, December 10, 2015

Let Off Steam, Before Exploding

Before I start, a disclaimer..... this is not a blog that has all the answers. I am just an average girl that continues to deal with daily struggles of this world and of sin like everyone else. I don't pretend to have all the answers, but I do try to seek the truth of God that He reveals through His Word and through the Holy Spirit. So, if you read through this blog, you may not find the most theologically correct points of view, but you will read about someone who just continues to live constantly trying to improve and be more Christ-like. Someone who is simply seeking God's will the best way she knows how. I AM NOT PERFECT... no body is. I make mistakes. So, in light of that.... here we go...

pressure builds

I have a confession to make. Last night, I lost it on my dear husband and he did not deserve it. My gasket blew, but not because he did anything wrong. He simply asked for me to do him a favor. For some reason I just went off on the poor man. Even as I was reacting the way I did to him on the phone I could sense that this was not an appropriate response. Why do we do that? Later, after cooling off a bit, I was ready to apologize and ask for forgiveness. Because my husband is gracious and loving, he was quick to forgive and gave me grace.
God love'em!

After much reflection on my attitude with my husband last night, I started to think, what came over me? It brought to mind a pressure cooker. I hate cooking with those things... they scare me. Think about it. You are putting your self at risk when you heat up whatever concoction you have in a tin can to build the pressure up to a point when, if pressure isn't released, you could experience...let's just say a very large mess.

Breakfast at Tiffany's, one of my favorites, Audrey Hepburn calls a friend over for dinner. Throughout the scene she repeats over and over 'how divinely happy she is'. She tells him that many times. A few minutes later, the pressure cooker releases a little steam, and then BOOM! Dinner is EVERYWHERE!

Sometimes I'll go about my day, week, month putting on a smile. All is good and I seem happy. I'll go on acting like life is grand and nothing bothers me. Until, one day, all of that mess I kept bottled up inside builds up to a rapid boil. Then, before I know it, just one little degree more of heat, and BOOM! I explode. That is what happened with me last night. After I cleaned up my mess, I remembered... THAT was NOT a Christ-like response.

So, as a Christ follower, how do we keep pressure from building in our lives and exploding on the people we love?

James 1:19-20 says,
"Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires."
 Paul told the Christians in Ephesus:
"Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. And be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you." (Ephesians 4:31-32)
Obviously, there are times when it is okay to be angry. Even Jesus displayed anger the day he turned over the tables in the temple. (Matthew 21:12) The difference between that type of anger and the anger I experienced was, His was righteous and for a good reason... my anger was not.

Part of the problem is, we need to blow off steam and let off some pressure from time to time. I believe it is important that we surround ourselves with other believers that we can trust to vent and blow off some of the steam we have building up inside of us. What is most important is that we have someone who walks closely with God who can speak truth to us and keep us from going astray and allowing us to make rash decisions based off that built up pressure.
"Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." Galatians 6:2
If both you and your confidant are rooted in the Word, you can help each other in being able to deal with the times when you are feeling the most heat. I love the verse in 1 Timothy that says,
"All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,"
Sometimes, when someone points out scripture that applies to your issues, it can help you refocus your heart and mind. Having a time with a friend to share your frustrations and problems and them sharing some Godly words of wisdom can help ease that pressure you are building up inside. You can release some steam before you explode on someone else.

iron sharpens iron

Remember Proverbs 27:17,
"As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another."
That is why it is very important for us to have friends who are also believers. They can help sharpen us in our faith and daily mission to be more Christ-like. That is part of the lesson I learned. The other part is... PRAY. God is there to listen! He wants you to bring ALL your cares to him.
"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." 1 Peter 5:7 

If you continue to go through your day, bottling up the stress, anxiety, anger, and/or worry, you need to remember to let it out. PRAY IT OUT! Talk to a friend that will speak truth into your life......because...

We don't want to explode! It can get VERY MESSY!
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